Depression is about disconnection, not sadness.
Telling someone to “get happy” when depressed is like treating just the headache when someone has the flu.
Humans are social creatures, and odd things happen when we get disconnected.
This is what makes depression an awful thing to deal with. Instead of thinking, “There is a place for me somewhere with some people,” you feel alone, out of place, and discarded.
This paradox compounds with the problem discussing it in public, further making someone feel out of place.
If you find someone who tells you they are depressed, don’t just tell them you love them; remind them that they matter, and how they connect with you.
Trust me, they need it more than a superficial “get better.”