It’s ok to get into tense situations
No one likes the person who is always fighting.
Unfortunately, as a response, many of us don’t ever find conflict at all. We suffer for this.
Our ideas need to find their way in the world. If we try to avoid the tension that we find by being vulnerable, we miss an opportunity and suffer.
Instead of finding the tension in the right place, we find it within ourselves.
Then we end up with destructive self-talk.
Find the conflict and put that energy where it belongs.