Take a Walk

You can’t control your impulses.

If you are angry, you are angry.

Our emotions are real and affect the way we see the world. It is a mistake to ignore or bottle them up. When we don’t honor them, they can change our perspective. Often, they harm our effectiveness, ensuring we see false connections that recreate that emotion.

For example, if you are angry, by bottling your anger, you’ll see more connections to anger because you never resolved your rage in the first place.

Take a moment to acknowledge the emotion, and then look for a way to control your reaction.

For example, instead of bottling up your emotions after something annoyed you, which may lead you to shut down during a meeting, if you have the leeway, get up and go “use the bathroom.” Take the time to walk around for a minute and talk to someone about anything that makes you happy for 30 to 45 seconds.

When you get back to the meeting, you’ll be refreshed and ready to work.

Instead of controlling your impulse, seek to control the reaction. This attempt of control doesn’t stop or invalidate your feelings, so we avoid the dangers of “bottling up.”

Take a Breather

Good or Bad? Give it some time.

Whenever something happens, we take a moment to rank it, categorize it, “figure it out.”

Most of the time, we don’t have the context to make a beneficial decision with the data.

We are human beings, and human beings categorize.

Ask yourself, before you act on whatever “decision” you just made if you have enough data.

Odds are you don’t.

Give it some time.

 

 

Art Isn’t Cheap

And neither are you

Sometimes the cost of doing business is showing up.

It’s annoying to have to:

  • Say it over and over
  • Repeat yourself
  • Sound like a broken record

People get sick of it. They would rather you fit in.

Except, art isn’t cheap, and neither or you.

If you do the work, they’ll listen(breakthrough!), or you’ll have to do it until you find someone who will (all things aren’t for everyone)

Force a Reaction

Sometimes, reactionary actions move the needle.

When a teammate or a coworker isn’t going fast enough, sometimes providing an obstacle provides a spark.

Countless meetings are happening, whenever you read this, that are begging for that spark. The perspective in the room stinks, or they aren’t going anywhere.

Don’t dismiss the power of “just throwing something out there,” especially if everyone else is throwing “nothing.”

Someone has to make the first move.

Are you?

The Selective Attention Test

We need more perspective

Don’t believe me?

Have you ever heard of the white gorilla test?

The white gorilla test is a sociological experiment where the participant is told to count sometimes a ball is being thrown around a basketball court in a video. In the middle of it, a white gorilla begins to dance on the screen and hop around.

And the end of the video, the researcher asks what did they see.

Most people don’t see the gorilla.  They just tell the researcher how many basketballs passes they saw.

What do you know?

Remember this next time you are in a meeting. We don’t see the full picture.