Permission is Fragile

Don’t break trust

Permission is sensitive.

Every time you ask someone for the right to do something, explicitly or implicitly, there is a cost.

That price draws against what I like to call the trust bank.

The trust bank is how much does someone trust you.

Like a regular bank, the trust bank relies on deposits and withdraws to work.


  • Gratitude
  • Appreciation
  • Challenges
  • Support


  • “Permission” (small, when you don’t abuse trust)
  • “Permission” (HUGE, ABILITY TO WIPE AN ACCOUNT, when you abuse trust)

Big withdraws are happen quickly, and unlike a regular bank, once you overdraft, you are out, and the relationship ends.

Permission is fragile, don’t break it.