New Dreams

Change comes with destruction

I think you need to kill your old dreams to get to the new ones.


Everything we do comes with some cost, even maintaining the parts of the past that aren’t a part of our identity, the pieces that don’t serve us.

So, we need to put those old dreams to sleep and move forward. Because every day we don’t, we are taking away the possibility to do more.

Change is a radical act, and for it to stick requires action.

Go. Start a Fire.

How can you become a fire starter?

First – what is a fire starter?

A fire starter is a catalyst for change.

Why are they important?

They make things happen when inertia sets in. Innovation usually occurs through fire starters. They are around to cultivate growth in project, teams, and organizations.

How can you become a fire starter?

Well, I think it is already inside of you. This blog is built around the audacity to create change and make an impact on the world around you.

The trick is to bring it out. Think about the last time you “pushed the button” and made the room uncomfortable enough to shift direction. The inputs that created your output there varies for everyone. The important thing is capturing it, and trying to bring those inputs into your life consistently.

Firestarters change the world. Be one.

Speaking of Firestarters, the wonderful Kate Harvie has just shipped her book, Believe It and Behave It: How to Restart, Reset, and Reframe Your Life, and it is a great tool to help you “fire start.”

Her wisdom has helped me shape this blog into what it is today, and working with her to improve the clarity of my writing is one of my most cherished working relationships.

Buy her book, and I know you’ll learn something to help you make a change.

Being Different Is Difficult

Different is Difficult

When most people talk about wanting something different, rarely do they want something too different.

What do they want?

They want a different flavor of themselves.  If we use a car metaphor, people don’t want an another kind; they want a different shade of paint or a new model.

If we stay with the car metaphor, it’s easier to drive a car where you reliably know where the air conditioner and the aux cord are. You can still have the same habits and get the same results.

Sometimes it isn’t a bad thing to want an update or even the same car. A new type of car means a new way of operating, and that takes time to get comfortable.

Dealing with people is no different.

If you do want different, prepare for “uncomfortability” on both sides.  Different is difficult. It requires us to change our habits and ways of seeing the world after we are comfortable.

Be patient.


Table for One

Smallest change, please

I love being a part of the altMBA program, both as a student and a coach.

During a private event with both alumni and Seth, he made a point that I’ve spent a lifetime trying to avoid. The thing is, he was completely right.

Before, I didn’t want to face it because:

  • It requires a lot of work and a ton of vulnerability.
  • It forces you to make decisions about the product you are offering to the world.
  • And, it might scare some people off.

What is it?

Focus on changing one person. That’s it.

Your job isn’t to make something for the masses. Your job, as a leader and a creator, is to make something for one person. Decide to attack one person’s problem, let one person find a voice, have one person feel represented.   Everyone else has to miss the boat.

Once you get that one person, then turn it into two.

Don’t Block Other’s Pain

Resist the urge to shield everything

You have to let your team scrape its knee. 

Failure is a path to growth, and when you stop the team from scraping its knee, you cut that growth short.

We adapt. When we are on a team that we trust, we know that the pain we feel can evolve into value at some point. When you are working with a team long-term, this is important. Each failure turns into a lesson for you and your team.

Don’t shame, blame or guilt. Failure is information. It is a chance to regroup.

Doesn’t mean it isn’t painful.

Let that pain evolve into an experience, or you’ll feel more pain later.

Show Up, There is Always a Prize When You Do

Go to work, show up

Every day you show up, something happens.

Sometimes that “something” is external. We earn accolades, money, validation.

Those are nice and necessary. Helping someone or making something happen feels good.

However, the external isn’t permanent. If that were it, then showing up wouldn’t be nearly as important as it is.

Something happens to our brains when we “do.” The change that happens is internal. We earn a little more know-how, form habits, and understand the language of what we do.

We take those things with us.They make up our foundation. The starting block for our taste.

There is always a prize for showing up.

Recognize, however, that no one else may see that prize.

Then show up anyway.