Every Action has a Story

What is your next move?

Have you ever thought to yourself, what’s next?

Sure. We all have.

Are you aware that each action we take has a story behind it?

It doesn’t matter if it is conscious or unconscious, every decision we make has a beginning, middle, and end.

Sounds simple, until you realize that story your action creates is different for everyone else.

  • If you are reacting, afterward, think about the consequences after flow and learn how to deal with them.
  • If you decide? The opposite, think about how your action affects the people around you.

Makes the next move question a little more interesting, doesn’t it?

Priorities Help With Recharge

We aren’t robots; we need to recharge

Producing all the time would be great.

However, we can’t.

We have to eat, sleep, and watch House of Cards.

No, I am not knocking you for enjoying one of the best shows on Netflix, just letting you know that it is normal. Set some priorities because they help you do that with no guilt.

We need time to recharge.

Let it happen.

 

The Ideal Self Delusion

The Ideal Self doesn’t have to “deal”

The initial shock of dropping something you like hurts.

It hurts like hell.

The reason: on the other side of something we like is our ideal selves.

We, in our heart of hearts, are that marathon runner that works in soup kitchens while building a national nonprofit and makes our “significant other” swoon with our romantic gestures.

However, we can’t do all these things at once. In the face of too many options, we freeze due to the consequences.

 

The “ideal self” doesn’t deal with consequences.

We do.

So:

  1. Forgive yourself for it.
  2. Pick one and knock it out the park.

 

We Work Better With Transparency

Be open and transparent

When things fail, we snap. Getting angry, sad, or depressed is natural. However, it isn’t worth it to vent. When we vent, we just rehash those feelings into a feel good “game” we can use to hide. We flood.

However, it’s just as bad to keep things bottled inside. Suppressing your feelings, so we can avoid dealing with them, is the same as hiding. There are countless families broken apart by faux-stoicism.

Venting and suppressing are both awful. Venting triggers the repeated, intense expression of our upset feelings; suppression makes us harsh, and we tend to unleash without warning.

The better option is to acknowledge and support.

If something bad happens, lead an open discussion. Make sure you give people context. Then, give them space to move forward.

It is ugly at first. Know that transparency helps to build the foundation for great teams.

Don’t Find New Holes

digging-a-hole

Superficial progress keeps us in place.

When you start digging, it’s easy to notice progress.

The divot in the ground is visible. It’s easy to point to it and tell people “Look, I did that.” At the beginning, the change is visible and easy to share.

The hard part is after you’ve dug for a while. When you tell people about your progress and people say “It looks the same as yesterday.”

It is discouraging.

It’s tempting to start digging another hole and say “I’ll get to that other hole too.”

Odd are, you won’t. The new hole feels better than the other one. Also, the praise is coming in, and it’s easier to show your work.

Resist this temptation, because digging new holes becomes addictive.  Whenever you get to the point of the first hole, and the praise starts to level off, you will start a new hole.

Eventually, you have a bunch of holes and nothing constructive to do with them.

Small Time Chunks Better Than Big

Time is the secret weapon

Yesterday we discussed why your time commitment has to be the inverse of your passion for the project. No one wants to look like a liar or a failure. If you internally commit to an idea and your time commitment isn’t there, then there you are. By swinging for the fences too early in terms of time, you kill your drive.

So, you’ve set aside 10 minutes to get started Monday morning, and it goes well.

What’s next?

You commit to at least 10 minutes tomorrow.

And you do that every day after that.

Small, controlled consistency is compelling. 

A few reasons:

  1. It forces you to make smaller milestones, which makes you more likely to make something happen. We feed off of small wins. The more small wins you have, the easier it is to get up for the next one.
  2.  You spend more time thinking about the idea. After you walk away from the “office,” your subconscious doesn’t quit. It continues to tinker with the notion. All the inputs that happen to you interact with it providing you with inspiration for tomorrow’s work.
  3. You don’t have to work for just 10 minutes. By making the barrier to entry so low, you know you can take care of the work without making yourself feel like a liar. All the work after that 10 minutes is a useful bonus.

So, your idea is starting to get compelling. You got it off the ground, and you are spending time on it daily. There is one more piece of this that makes this framework very potent.

We cover that part tomorrow!