Entitlement vs Gratitude

Don’t forget this

Gratitude is a hard skill to learn and even more difficult to master. Once you decide to go down that road, don’t handicap yourself with the expectation you are owed something. That title or salary doesn’t mean anything when it comes to leadership.

The opposite of gratitude is entitlement

Seth Godin

Appreciation goes a long way in your journey to leadership.

Acting like “someone owes you” pushes against you. Even if you still advance you are handicapping yourself.

Before You Make Something…

Ask yourself

What problem did I solve?

Well, how do you know you are solving a problem? Easy – people want it.

Seth Godin wrote an excellent post on the subject, and in it, he gives a simple test: tell ten people.

If you tell ten people, and more people hear about it, well, I guess you are solving a problem.

If it dies on the vine, you have work to do either:

  • Explaining what problem you are solving


  • Solving what you say you’re going to

Either way, get back to work.


Small is Good.

I hope your idea is too small and doesn’t “fit:”  for example. Voltron obsessed,mohawk having, and dog loving hiker. This is hyperbole, but small is good.

The time for the big idea is over. Attracting people at scale for X is over. Making something that appeals to “Middle America” and New York is gone too.

So what does that leave us if you get hip now?

  • You have an opportunity to understand, before most people, the effects of the internet’s “shrinking” of the world.
    • Now that there is no distance(the internet) between someone who loves cabbage patch doll alterations in Indiana and in London, why would they talk to the motorbike enthusiast across the street?There aren’t that many Voltron obsessives dog lovers but when they connect they are going to love each other.
  • Trying to understand the impact.
    • Back when the internet was going to scale you had to reach critical mass for cultural impact, now you can do it with 1,000 people.  That same group of Voltron loving hikers is going to talk, and each effect hits them way harder than a tiny change on Amazon.
  • Customer connection and service get relevant again.
    • The mission statement with corporate jargon and the telephone line to a robot aren’t going to work (and until AI passes the Turing test it won’t do either). Your story to that mohawk loving Voltron obsessives better means something or else they are going to take the dogs elsewhere.


Don’t Ask Me, Just Try It

The access to diversity of thought now is now the greatest it’s ever been.

100 years ago you had access to only one way of thinking*. The internet has changed that.

“Diversity of thought” is the concept that there are people who know a lot, have some authority, and end up in a different intellectual place than others.

If you have access to this blog, chances are you have access to YouTube,Codecademy,UdemyOne Month, etc. All these places have courses (and in YouTube’s case, a lot more).

You can spend the day learning about Alan Watts, Seth Godin, and Martin Luther King Jr through a course, a lecture, or biography for free or slight cost.

These are free platforms where one can express her views,  combine them, deconstruct them as often as you want, all for no cost.

When this is clear to those who want to pick up the tools, magic happens.

The best part? No Ph.D , magic wand, or gatekeeper required.

* Unless you traveled, which was a rarity before the airplane. Most people didn’t go further than 10 miles from home their entire life.

The Default

We accept the default

It’s human nature. We normally accept whatever is in front of us. Our brains can’t do the math, we work with too many stimuli per second to figure out every single decision. Our brains take the path of least resistance because we are on the lookout for things that could harm us.

This isn’t a bad thing, nor should you think of it as such. If we considered every option we would be paralyzed by choice. If you thought going through your closet in the morning on a stressful day is bad, considering every decision that presents itself to us is that feeling times 1000x.

So, we take the default, and we should, for most things.  The hard part of life is determining of what defaults you don’t want to take and doing the hard work up from in changing them.

Don't accept the defaults you don't want



The Old Way Isn’t Enough


The old way isn’t enough. I had my awakening about the school system when I first read Weapons of Mass Instruction. It introduced me to the real world of New York City schools, and in effect, the school system as we know it. This video further informed me.

So what do we do when faced with the old – commit. Be vulnerable and take the first step. For anyone reading this post, that next step is clicking play above with an open mind.