Say what you need, please.
Asking is difficult for me.
I take pride in doing things on my own. As a result, I often either reinvent the wheel or miss out on opportunities.
Learning how to ask, wherever you are in an organization or community, is powerful because it both tells someone what you need and allows someone to help you. They feel connected to you, and you, in turn, feel connected to the work you are doing.
Human beings are social animals.
Below is an exercise that will help you with getting used to asking.
- Write down five questions you want to ask someone (a boss, co-worker, significant other).
- Pick three of them.
- Choose a day on the calendar that week and ask away.
This exercise goes further than the superficial, allows you to pick what is contextually important, it digs into your thinking, and most importantly, it allows you to ritualize asking the asking of questions.
The normal result is often that people are often on your side and what to help you succeed.
Don’t miss out.