A lot of PMs admit the same thing when I work with them: they're stuck taking orders.
Sales has a list. Leadership has a list. There's a competitor deck floating around. Everyone wants a "quick win." And without clear bets and decision rules, you end up saying yes by default.
The way out isn't working harder or pushing back louder. It's getting explicit about your bets.
Here's the shift: instead of a backlog full of requests, you need 2-3 clear bets with:
- A specific audience — not "users" but which users, in which context
- Explicit odds — what you believe will happen, and how confident you are
- Kill criteria — what would make you walk away before it's too late
The main takeaway: you earn the right to say no by being explicit about your bets and how you'll measure survival.
Most PMs skip this step. They jump from request to roadmap without ever asking: "What would have to be true for this to work, and what would make us stop?"
That's the difference between order-taking and strategy. Order-takers say yes and hope. Strategists name their bets, define their survival metrics, and make trade-offs visible.
If you want to stop being the person who says yes to everyone and start being the person who can explain the bets you're making — that's the work worth doing.
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